Comedatewithme & Psychology
Making fundamental changes, Comedatewithme is a new online dating concept that may also change the direction and psychology to online dating. The familiar but now old concepts, whose foundations are built on swiping and searching profiles has produced some ugly truths and are well documented here at Psychology Today.
When we say no more searching via profiles is not entirely true. Investing some time reading profiles will be required, especially if you have advertised your date. A fundamental difference is you’ll be reading the biographies and profiles of people who have shown a real interested in you. And not just because of your picture and profile but because of a fun and fantastic date you have organised and planned for.
Imagining a room, (your city), full with single people. You write up a date description & slap it on the wall. Following this, you get to interview all or some of those who wish to join you.
Before we dive any further into the psychology of Comedatewithme, let us look at the procedures and use of the conventional swipe away platforms and its inherent culture.
Tinder or P of F
It's been a tiresome Monday and you had a bad case of the Monday-itis. While reminiscing over your event-less weekend, you realize something was missing. Because you are single, you missed the excitement of going on a new date. You switch on Tinder or Plenty of Fish in the hope of flipping or swiping in a date for the coming weekend.
You flick left and right and the tick flashes before you, it's a match. Read his or her profile and nope. Flick again and 'tick' another match. Read the profile and it’s a, hmm maybe. What is apparent, they are not online but for curiosity sake, you leave a brief message. Then you continue and swipe a few more and bang, number three a match!
Now feeling as if things are going well, you notice he/she is online. Quickly you browse over their biography and another, ah-maybe gives rise to your mind. Not overly or terribly enthused, you consider an opening line and settle for the template and easy one. ‘Hi how are you doing & how was your weekend’. Wait a little with no reply. Maybe they are texting with someone else. Get to swiping again left-right-left-right with no more ticks to respond to you say to yourself enough and swipe Tinder the app away.
After dinner, you return with your appetite weighted down with the addition of a full stomach. From Tinder, there is a message. You respond, as immediate replies seem to bounce off yours. Texting/talking about the weekend when boom out of nowhere a text made no sense, their Harley is red. ‘Red Harley- where did that come from?’ ‘Whoops sorry, that wasn’t meant for you.’ Okay time waster ‘see ya bye' block.
Now frustrated you swipe some more when there’s a mood switching double bang, a match with a profile that on appearance looks suitable. Almost perfect with a great job, great interests, nice body and face to go along. They are online - so get to message them quickly. Wow appetite returned as you continue with the revolving rises and falls inherent to the game of swipe.
Texting is going great when they ask if you have another way of communicating. So, they can show you some pictures from there awesome weekend. What’s-app maybe. Okay what harm can come from it. Exchange details and once connected there's a ‘hi’, followed by an image. You down load it and double boom - genitalia pic! You cannot figure, is that a penis or virgina?
From here depending on whom and what you are looking for can go either way. Let us say for this story you are the damn-block-delete kind of person. Your Monday evening has been exhausting and it is now time to hit the sack. Soon as your head smashes the pillow, your eyes shut with a permanent image stamped and sitting on your forehead. Thinking out loud, 'with genitalia like that it is no wonder they're on tinder'. Damn it, why am I on tinder?
Over the coming week and in the hope of finding a date for the weekend you may or may not continue with this trend. But what is for sure is that the events from above are part of your daily routine and pursuit for love on the swipe away platforms.
Psychology of Come Date with Me
It’s Monday and you switch on Comedatewithme
Under the listed dates and from the previous week two dates have completed. Browsing over them, you become curious and cannot help but wonder who got select from the list of contestants. So, you check on the completed date’s section. A follow up from the dates has not yet posted so you decide to check on this later in the week.
Within the Quick Date forum, there’s an advertised date for tomorrow eve. It is an exclusive kind of date but in Quick Date because of the short notice. The dates host is offering to take the right contestant to a show in the west end and awesomely so, you have tomorrow night absolute free.
Having always wanted to see this show you decide it may be worth to check on their profile. First impressions are they seem like a nice person. You whisper to yourself, what the heck - nothing ventured nothing gained. You respond to the date concentrating on how your enthusiasm comes across or perceived and making sure humour is a big part of your personality.
Seems it is a popular, entertaining west end show and there are other contestants with well-written responses and would surely give the advertiser many of problems to choose over. Satisfied in your response and knowing there is a wealth of competition to delve over, now is a good time to switch off and prepare dinner.
On a full Stomach
After dinner, a nervous but enthused appetite drives you to check on how the date has played out.
Firstly, on the activity feed you notice some people’s comments have made you favourite and you cannot help but feel the excitement rising within. You head to the dates-forum and yes, the date has already closed. Now you check on your messages and voilà, there is a message from the date’s host. The message is not what you had anticipated but hey, they have left you a courteous message and proof was, at least they were nice.
There is a sinking feeling as the reversal in excitement dissipates from your body. You really fancied the show on offer. Still in a positive frame of mind, you decide this will not spoil this coming weekend. Taking the bull by the horns you check online for tickets and value for money is, 'surprise' this Saturday. You purchase the tickets and immediately advertise on the Night Out - date forum. If others are doing it so can I you assuredly say to yourself.
All this is on the Monday night and by Wednesday eve; you have 20 profiles to read through. You announce the closure of the date by choosing a contestant and writing a small reply to all those who applied.
Exclusive Dates on Come Date with Me. Com
With your date all organized for this weekend, curiously you check on the completed date's section.
A date from the Tickets-For-Two has completed and posted there date in the completed date section. Advertised a few weeks back, the date from an elderly retired couple was a exclusive kind of date. They caught the Orient express to Paris, spent all weekend, and returned on the Monday via Eurostar. Not giving too much away, they had a fantastic trip and great time but now will remain friends.
Noticing another date from last week, has also given a run down on their weekends date. Having gone to a restaurant for a romantic dinner, they confess there was a spark! And now will be going on date number two. They also, simply stated perhaps neither have the need to advertise again anytime soon.
Wow with this kind of outcome you then wonder if your date for the coming weekend could possibly be so lucky. Maybe you never know, at the very least it has been fun trying...
With the Comedatewithme platform, the people whom approach the system with open honesty and enthusiasm will reap the most reward. The more thought we put into our dates the more we will get back. This new concept will provide an entertaining environment where the psychology and future to online dating can finally evolve.
Pages of interest:
About Comedatewithme - about
New Membership Deal HERE
New Concept for Online Dating - here